At first it was innocent enough

Dating my lecturer

Playing around with sex and

Playing around with sex and power can be a thrill, as long as you take care of your heart and your ego. But, as Katie testifies, things can get rough. My laid-back, west coast father came to the east coast and met him. Relationships between students and sabbs might not immediately seem particularly ill-advised, and you do get a kind of second-hand power rush from dating someone vaguely important.

My experience also tells me that however spectacularly you get your heart broken, eventually it's okay. Then my hardworking, big city mother came to the east coast and met him. Finally, we were both left to find new material for the unwritten memoirs of our passionately messy lives. But when it ends, and there's a cardboard cutout of your ex that creepily guards the entrance to your uni, it becomes peculiarly painful.

The lessons I learned from this relationship were lasting. Relationship with a sabbatical officer Sabbatical officers are students who take a year off between or directly after their studies to take on key positions in the student union.

In a final year of university, professor convinced me to participate in a course he was offering on Laurence Sterne, author of The Life and Opinions of Tristram Shandy, Gentleman. Alamy Universities are hotbeds for all kinds of relationships, from everlasting true love through to awkward one-night stands. One night postcoital, professor and I were eating roasted nuts and drinking red wine naked in his bed.

Surrounded by empty bottles of red wine and smoky stacks of collected rare books, you can imagine what happened next. But and I write this as the daughter of a student-staff relationship most relationships you have at uni aren't going to end happily ever after.

All of a sudden it was just him and me left on his scratchy tartan couch. However, there are some kinds of relationships that you should steer clear of, because they tend to make you forget why you ever went to uni in the first place. However, Katie, a friend from home, started seeing a flatmate at the beginning of this year.

But as Katie testifies things can